Happy Four Years!
Four years ago today, I married my best friend. He was someone who made me laugh, made me think, and encouraged me to be the best I could be. He was there for me when I succeeded and cheered me on, and he was also there when I failed.
Earlier this year, as some of my readers may already know, I was very sick and was in the hospital for a short time recuperating. During this time, my husband really stepped up to the plate and took care of me. He worried for me, he helped me with my work, he brought me new set of clothes everyday, he brushed my hair, and he made sure all the doctors and nurses took care of me when he couldn’t physically be there. He truly proved that he meant his vows when he promised to love me in sickness and in health.
Here we are at a Boston Red Sox game. I promised to be a Red Sox fan when we married…
Although we’ve only been married for 4 years, we’ve lived together for 2 years before we got married, so I guess we do have a lot of experience on co-habitating and being in a good relationship.
If I had to give anyone advice on a strong marriage, it would be that you have to treat your marriage like a partnership. Just because you’re married doesn’t mean you can let everything go and be a slob, or take your partner for granted, or hide things from your partner. Everything is an open book between my husband and I, from our finances to our family problems to just our every day things. Each day we catch up on what we did and share any funny stories and we also email each other throughout the day. We plan our dinners and share cooking (and cleaning) duties and we both dote over our dog as if he’s our child. We try to eat dinner together every night and about once a week, we either go out on a date or stay in with a pizza and watch a movie.
Just like I tell my clients to reserve one day a week when you DO NOT discuss anything wedding related, I think one day a week, a couple should spend real quality time together.
Here we are at our PaeBaek ceremony at our wedding!
I will end with this, and this may come off as a sacrilegious note from a wedding planner, but the wedding isn’t the end all, be all. No matter how beautiful and perfect the wedding is, it will never compare to some of the private and intimate moments you share with your partner during your marriage. Remember that your wedding is to celebrate your new marriage, and each day hopefully you will realize you love each other more and more and that your wedding day was just the beginning.
Some of my clients ask me what I thought of their wedding at the end of their wedding day, and I always say, “Your wedding was beautiful but it just gets better from here!”