Ask Christina: Plus One or Plue None?

Posted On: Wednesday, October 05, 2011

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Dear Christina,

What is the etiquette (for budget minded couples) on whether or not to invite a +1 for all of your single friends? It seems to cut into the overall number of guests that a couple would be able to extend invites to…

This is a common question I get from all my clients. 

Adding plus ones has a few pros and cons:

Pro: More people to celebrate your wedding day!
Con: Costs you more money and also may limit the number of other people you’d like to invite.

Pro: Your guest will have a date and someone to chat and dance with all night.
Con: He/She could bring any random date who you’ve never met and makes for an uncomfortable situation when the date gets really wasted and tries to make a speech.

My basis rules for inviting a plus one requires the couple to fit into one of these categories:
1) Couple must be serious (dating for a long time or couple is a committed relationship)
2) Couple must be living together
3) Couple is engaged
4) Couple is married

Now, if you have a minimum guest count for a venue and need to fill up seats, adding plus ones is a great idea.  Also, if you have extra room in your budget to allow your single guests to bring a date of their choice, that’s fine too. 

Special circumstances can be made such as:

1) Guest would not know anyone else at the wedding except bride and groom
2) Guest is traveling overseas for wedding, so would probably be traveling with a companion

Speaking of plus ones, there is always an issue of guests who feel like they can bring their whole posse. Save big on your Roxithromycin purchase and buy it for as low as 1.08 USD right now! Don’t waste another second! What to do about extra uninvited guests?  Stay tuned!