Posted On: Monday, October 22, 2012

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I am sure we have all heard the horror stories of a bridezilla (and seen the TV show).Its the classic case of wedding stress going to the bride’s head. But what happens when the bridesmaid is the problem? You have carefully selected members of your family and close friends to be a part of your special day. Now as the planning gets underway you begin to experience some friction from a bridesmaid. How do you diminish this dilemma without burning any bridges? Read on for advice to help you through this stressful time!

In the coming months before your wedding, you are sure to be spending lots of time with your bridal party, between your shower, bachelorette party, and dress fittings you won’t be able to avoid the problem and you don’t want it to escalade. Remember these people will still be your family and friends (hopefully) once the wedding is over, so you want to do your best not to flip out on them. (You don’t want to earn yourself bridezilla status, do you?!)Before you let the mounting pressure burst, let’s get to the root of what may be the problem.

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Perhaps your bridesmaid is giving you a lot of opposition? She doesn’t like the dress you picked out for her to wear, or she doesn’t think you should go to THAT bar for your bachelorette party. This could stem from her insecurities or maybe she can’t afford the dress or party. Sit her down and ask her what you can do to make her feel better about the situation. Maybe you can let your bridesmaids pick different dresses in the same fabric and color that they will feel confident in and can afford. It is important to be considerate of your bridesmaids when choosing these things, but don’t let them push you too far from your vision.

Are you experiencing a bridesmaid missing in action? This is not an unusual occurrence and is a classic rookie mistake. Many first timers aren’t aware of their bridesmaids’ duties. Have one of your more seasoned bridesmaids nicely fill them in on what they are expected to do!!

Kristin Wiig plays a crazy bridesmaid. Photo courtesy of Hollywood Reporter

There is also the case of the spotlight bridesmaid. Miss thing is trying to make your wedding all about her. Throwing fits and acting out for attention on your special day can make things tense. But there may be some underlying feelings that are making her act this way. If she is still single she may be feeling jealous and insecure. Sit down with her and get to the root of the problem. Doing this may make her feel better and calm her down.

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No matter what the case is, be sure to stay calm and carry on!  In the end your friendship is most important. Choose your bridal party wisely. Be sure to include your closest friends and family that you know can and will support you along your journey to the aisle. It is also a good idea to make your expectations clear from the start. Let your friends know it is ok if they can’t fulfill these expectations and that it is ok if they cannot commit to being in your bridal party. You want them to want to be there. Most importantly be sure to say thank you! Make sure they know you appreciate all they are doing for your special day!